Hola Ladies! People talk about how we are an expert in turning off a perfect sensual mode when we are PMSing, tired or just not in the mood. Yeah, we do take our feeling seriously and to have sex it’s important that we feel erotic, the world knows it. However, what really messes us up is the time when our boogie-man starts avoiding bedroom fun.
It’s devastating when our partner gives a miss to sex. It makes us wonder, where things went wrong and we being a gender who overthinks even about the single thread of our clothes, tend to think it’s our fault.
We feel undesired, underappreciated, not-loved-enough, unworthy, and to sum it up in one word -Rejected. We hate that feeling but the question remains the same, why is he not having sex?
We have felt that burden long enough in heart and it’s time to bring the truth out of its shell. We may have done something wrong ladies but, here are some reasons that have nothing to do with us and will spare us from the thought of guilt and unworthiness.
1. He Had A Really Long Day.
You know keeping the pace with life isn’t easy and we all have our good days and bad days. He may have a day that has consumed all of his energy and left him exhausted. His mind is so in a need of peace and rest that he may not realize that you missed him. It may be a bad phase of your life, it’s okay, you two have spent a lot of evenings together, maybe it’s time you start relaxing with him. Soon the phase will be over and you will get your cheerful rabbit back.
2. Video Games And Sports
These two words are practically the most hated words for a woman. Guys dig video games and watching their favorite and most of the women don’t. He may want to have a night off and play his heart out. Relax, your relationship is not only about sexual activities, play these games with him or watch football. You may end up having a last minute quickie.
3. Red Zone.
A lot of men don’t like to have sex when their partner is having the period. The icky feeling about blood running out from their personal favorite heaven makes them run away from it. Respect his choice and wait for it to get over. He will eventually come crawling back to your V-zone.
4. You Are Being Lousy In Bed.
You two have dated long enough to get comfortable and the previous fire in you suddenly seems like a cold shore. Recently you have underperformed in bed and displayed the least interest. You are so comfortable with him that you did not bother to ignite even a little bit of spark and guess what? He is not liking it. He is not sure that you are game anymore, although, he is secretly hoping for it.
5. Performance Anxiety.
He may have underperformed in recent sexual encounters with you and feeling embarrassed about it. Now, every time he thinks of blowing off your mind, a lot of pressure makes him confuse which turns him off. Tell him that it’s okay to not to have good sex every day. Ask him to do something that you know would please you. Maybe an oral-sex trick that will make you reach the big-O. His confidence will definitely rise and so do his tool.
6. Too Much Porn
If he is already getting his dose of nude on the internet, chances are his sexual desires are meeting enough pleasure. Thus, his erotic spree has hit a low. Now too much of porn can also cause erectile dysfunction and if this is the reason, woman, you are in deep trouble, you need to fetch your man back from that pornographic ocean.
7. He Is Worried About Work.
Sex needs focus. If your man has given a new task that he fears to fail in or he is doing overtime at his office due to excessive work, the chances are that his mind is hooked to his work 24*7 and he has become a temporary workaholic. You can either try to work your magic or wait with him this time to pass.
Feeling better? All these reasons may have taken your man’s sexual desires away. So don’t think that he doesn’t love you or is not into you or less attracted to you. Just hold on and everything will be fine with time. Also, never stop trying.
3 November 2017
Avni S. Singh