Life can be too hard for some and a large part of it depends on the way we teach about the true meaning of it. Many of us think about what we would like to tell our 12 years or 15-year-old self. Because, there are some lessons that we have understood or at least tried to, in the past few years.
We all want to know the exact same life lessons at this point in time in our lives. These lessons are crucial and even though one does get to know about them over the course of time, identifying them at an early stage in life is always a much better thing. Maybe this is the reason why life lessons are called that because somewhere down the line you get to know more about life than actually and literally going through all of it.
Check out these 6 life lessons to know the reality of life and maybe even get better at it.
1. All benefits have a cost to them.
One should always remember that patience is the king our life cycle. You can’t expect to get spectacular results on the very first day of your hardship. Every benefit comes at a cost and only those who have the will to tackle that cost can have the fruitful results. You can’t expect to shed 10 kilos on the first day of your gym, it’s a hard path and it requires persistence as well as patience. So, be successful at patience if you want to be successful at life.
2. Fantasies hurt you more than what you expect.
While fantasies about your lifelong dreams are considered to be a good thing, one needs to understand that most of the time, your fantasies and expectations are killing you. Even though you understand or not, these expectations can ultimately be the end of you and your dream. Rather than just thinking about it, try to work towards them or at least take a step in that direction, it would help you big time.
3. You are the source of your own happiness.
No one and I mean no one is going to be or even should be your source of happiness because, at the end, you are the only one who walks this life. No matter how much you adore a person or place, and consider it to be the source of your happiness, always remember that even the very existence of that person or thing is questionable in the coming days, weeks, months or maybe years.
4. Everyone wants different things in life.
This is a very big misconception that has been dwelled into the minds of us people that there are some things that everyone want. Not everyone desires a 1 crore car, there are some who are happy in driving a bicycle. Your idea of happiness and need is different than that of your friend, and the need to understand that is the main thing.
5. Some things and relationships would end.
Your 8th standard best friend who means the world to you would probably end up in a different section and in a different life. Or your first boyfriend, who you think would be there with you till your last breath will probably not do anything of that sort. And all of this will happen and is bound to happen, no matter how important a relationship seemed to you at a specific point in time would go through the ups and downs of life and might even end. Some people come into your lives and become a lesson and it should be kept in that way. Let it be.
6. Be your real self.
You need to understand that your own self is the real and authentic version of you which should not be left behind or be kept in a closet. Try to be your authentic self because it would teach you many things, for example, who loves the real you and who is always going to be there for you. It is always easier to be the original and real version of yourself in this pool of fakeness in this world.
All these things are too important to skip by and as soon as you learn about them, much easier the life gets.
22nd March 2017
Jyotsna Amla