Somehow, hitting someone is always considered to be the highest order of abuse, something that tops it all, something that pushes you to look for a way out. Many don’t even consider an abuse, an abuse until someone has been hit in it. However, it’s not the case.
There’s nothing more torturous or frustrating than being mentally and emotionally abused by a person you love the most. However, it almost seems that our society can’t come to terms with it. This is the very reason why millions of people can’t even propel what’s happening to them. They’re disturbed, yet are told to constantly try in order to make things better, because somehow, we’re teaching men and women some really wrong definitions of love and care.
Abuse – physical or mental – is not something that only a woman goes through, something that has been happening for a long time now. There are millions of men out there who also go through some or the other kind of abuse while being in a relationship. However, no one believes them because exactly how can it happen and even if it happened, how can a man simply sit and take that all in?
There are so many things and hardships that come with being a man, toxic masculinity for one. Our society is not at all ready to throw the garb of toxic masculinity away, even though it’s 2018 now and no one has time to sit and talk about how great it’s to not feel anything at all.
Which is why, after the success of #MeToo, even men are coming out with their horrific mental abuse stories under #MaybeSheDoesntHitYou. Women too are sharing their abuse stories with #MaybeHeDoesntHitYou.
Check out the #MaybeSheDoesntHitYou stories over here:
#maybeshedoesnthityou but she threatens to hurt herself if you leave her.
— ya hoe Kip (@kiptheegg) March 27, 2018
#maybeshedoesnthityou but she tries to tell you who you can and can’t have in your life and she likes to say it’s out of love
— ✊🏻✊🏿 (@nacc_arato) March 20, 2018
The #MaybeSheDoesntHitYou hashtag is really important. #MaybeSheDoesntHitYou but she makes you responsible for her happiness and when you put your own health first she harms herself so that "he will talk to me".
I still wake up screaming some nights. Abuse stays with you.
— Andrew Martin Lee (@TransiantArt) March 27, 2018
#maybeshedoesnthityou but she ia constantly trying to break up with you and manipulating your personality and trying to make you feel bad
— Daniel Barbarossa (@Pandi_Riqui) March 28, 2018
https://twitter.com/GeorgePykov/status/979394309081444352
#maybeshedoesnthityou you feel like you can’t talk to any one because she reads everything you do on your phone.
— burneracount (@burneracount2) March 29, 2018
#maybeshedoesnthityou but she cam go and cheat and no one can do a thing, cos the adultery law only applies to men in India.
— Meninist India (@MeninistInd) March 29, 2018
https://twitter.com/notsaul_/status/979531544053284865
#Maybeshedoesnthityou But she kicked me while i was driving down the highway 6 times. Knowing that if i ever left her id never see my son again. Its been 3 months since ive seen my son.
— StockManiaInfo (@StockManiaInfo) March 30, 2018
#maybeshedoesnthityou but when you try to get space to think she throws all your stuff in a pile and tells you to get out. Then threatens to kill her self when you start moving it to your car.
— burneracount (@burneracount2) March 29, 2018
#maybeshedoesnthityou but constantly reminds you how she earns more than you do.
— Lalmuan Tombing (@LalmuanTombing) March 29, 2018
#maybeshedoesnthityou but she banlises your feelings far over her own, and when she hears about your depression, she stops talking to you without saying a reason and ignores you greeting her anyway (basicaly as if you died or not even worth looking in the eyes).
— Sweet D6 Potatoe 🎲🎲🎲 (@OlleKnolle) March 28, 2018
#maybeshedoesnthityou but she says your overly emotional when you try and talk about how hurt you are by how she treats you.
— burneracount (@burneracount2) March 29, 2018
#maybeshedoesnthityou but if she makes you feel horrible or insecure becasue of your looks or personality or anything else, shes not worth the time
— 100 rats in a shoebox (@Insomniparty) March 25, 2018
#MaybeSheDoesntHitYou but treats u as next choice after her family, work, relatives, caste and gives false sarcastic support for your career and family plans.
— aback002 (@aback002) March 30, 2018
Check out the #MaybeHeDoesntHitYou stories over here:
https://twitter.com/emilyjooooo/status/978791763254087680
#MaybeHeDoesntHitYou but he stabs your heart with his cruel comments every day!!
— Samantha Rouse (@SamanthaRouse19) March 26, 2018
#MaybeHeDoesntHitYou but calls you a whore and belittles you in front of his friends .
— Nikki Lashbaugh (@NLashbaugh) March 23, 2018
https://twitter.com/mooks19/status/977909288499863557
But he did threaten right after separation to "take" your child over 100x, the ONLY thing he knows is most important in your life that he ABANDONED for 2.5 years to focus on placating the mistress (wooing was done FOR 4 YEARS DURING OUR MARRIAGE).
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— #deMOCKracy (@BernieUpstateNY) March 30, 2018
BOOM. Abuse is NOT sexy. Abuse is not love. Abuse is not romance. Abuse is abuse. #narcissisticabuse #narcissism #abuse #domesticabuse #MaybeHeDoesntHitYou #domesticviolence #narcopath https://t.co/WYzXv7ymfp
— Bye-Bye Jerkface (@byebyejerkface) March 27, 2018
https://twitter.com/fat_dinosaur92/status/978693966911565824
Ladies, so #MaybeHeDoesntHitYou but he is deceitful, disloyal and is never there for you when you need him most. This is also #abuse. Learn more via #121dealbreakers #unhealthylove #unhealthyrelationships #datetips #dating #relationships #lovetips #DV #VAW #domesticabuse
— Author/Advocate Bibiana Cecala (@121dealbreakers) March 26, 2018
When he refuses to sign documents for the sale of the house unless you give him money, even though he signed over care & financial responsibility for your 3 children months ago and has provided nothing. #MaybeHeDoesntHitYou #whiteribbon #domesticviolence #itsnotwhatitlookslike
— Itsnotwhatitlookslike (@Itsnotwhatitlo1) March 26, 2018
#MaybeHeDoesntHitYou but the sound of him walking up the stairs after you both have been texting the argument to finally come “confront” you makes you so fucking nervous
— 🥀 (@charlienollette) March 19, 2018
#MaybeHeDoesntHitYou but the one time he did long ago always makes you feel like he is capable of doing it again and at any time, and that scares the hell out of you
— 🥀 (@charlienollette) March 19, 2018
#MaybeHeDoesntHitYou but anytime you mention leaving he tells you how you’ll never find anyone bc you’re too hard to love and unless you change yourself you’ll be lonely
— 🥀 (@charlienollette) March 19, 2018
#MaybeHeDoesntHitYou but if he makes you feel crazy or tells you you’re being dramatic for bringing up something that bothered you #ThatIsntLove
— lex appeal (@alexiscolossal) March 18, 2018
These abuse stories are not only horrific and hard to digest, but also stand true to the fact that abuse doesn’t always equate to hitting and it has no gender.
Jyotsna Amla