Every year people take resolutions that they will either incorporate something new or will leave a bad habit behind but how many of us succeed in doing so? Just a handful. We keep ourselves way too occupied and work towards professional and social grooming but, we forget that mental peace is important to keep all the other zones of life intact. Improving ourselves mentally is important than focusing any other zone as everything is directly connected to your mind.
Caring about others and leaving impact on people has become so necessary to impress the society that we sacrifice our own growth. We keep neglecting ourselves for others and that’s something which makes us miserable. We are a generation who deals with being “Fine” in the best way possible. We tolerate life as it goes just because it is fine to do so and before we know we become habitual of living a life that is not even of our choice.
You may be thinking what the hell am I talking about, but after reading these 5 things that you should stop doing this year, all of it will make sense.
1. Stop Saying Yes When You Don’t Want To!
Literally just stop. We keep saying yes to people just because we don’t want to hurt them but, it’s high time we stop letting people walk over us. You may find it hard but you need to speak for yourself. This is your life and you should be your first priority. Always and always keep yourself above all because no matter how much you try you can’t make everyone happy.
2. Dating Should Be Your Choice!
Stop dating for the sake of dating. Often we date just because people around us have a girlfriend or boyfriend and we don’t want to feel alone but, have you ever thought that you are killing your time with a person who is not even close to your heart. Stop doing it just to fit in. It a waste of your time and the other person’s as well.
3. Stop Comparing Yourself.
Every individual is born different. Their choices defines their lives so, no, do not compare or contrast your self with others. It’s unhealthy for your mental health. When you define your life by comparing it to the achievements of others, it makes you feel less capable. You have your own path and like you every one is in their own journey.
4. Stop Feeling Sorry For Yourself!
There will be times when you will fail because that’s the part of life. You are bound to fail in life, every one does and it’s okay. Knowing that you have failed and you need to improve will make all the difference so stop feeling sorry just because something doesn’t worked your way. Let your mistakes make you braver and build you stronger. Don’t let them get into your head as it will result in your destruction.
5. Stop Caring What Other People Think.
No one has walked in your shoes and no one has the right to judge you but people will never stop doing it. The more you will think about what others think of you, the more it will impact your life. So, let other people think whatever they want to and you focus on your own karma.
Is it making sense now? I bet it is. Stay away from these things, they are eating your brain for nothing good. Value yourself. You should be important to yourself if you want others to see what an amazing individual you are.
12 July 2017
Avni S. Singh